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Food re-introduction update

We have been trying gluten-containing foods for a week now, and we have noticed a hugely negative response from Miracle Girl. She is so self-absorbed that she ignores us most of the time, she can’t help but blurt out anything that pops into her head (even when someone else is already talking to her), and she is vastly more emotional. She says her tummy hurts every day, again. It is a big regression to a place we have rarely been to this degree in recent months.

Charming Boy is a bit more emotional, but it could just be a side-product of seeing his sister upset so much.

As hard as it is to keep to the gluten-free diet with kids (and expensive, to boot), dealing with her anti-social and downright rude behavior is just too hard on our family. When she is off gluten, she recognizes her poor choices and at least actively tries to regular her emotionality. On gluten, it’s unbearable to see how far away she is from reality and how she is utterly unable to stop herself. It’s like we’re all on a never-ending roller coaster ride to hell.

Sounds like the gluten-free diet is worth the trouble after all! ;-)

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One thing I said in my last post was that I believed IgG allergy reactions were the anaphalactic kind, and I was WRONG. Our pediatrician told me that the kind of reactions that our kids have to trigger foods are IgE mediated, and that those are the kind that can turn into life-threatening reactions.

But, she also said that the skin rash Charming Boy sprouts withing a day or two of consuming egg is okay, and she’s okay with him continuing to consume egg unless we see something else come up. Either he will outgrow it, or given his history of food sensitivities, he might develop other more typical allergy symptoms, like asthma or seasonal allergies.

Oh, that’s just great.

Once things normalize after removing gluten (again), we are going to do a dairy trial next. I am hoping that Charming Boy will be able to tolerate at least cheese and yogurt now, but don’t really have any facts to bolster that hope. He’s been horribly sensitive to it since he was born, so… we’ll see.

Thhhhrrreeee!

Channeling the Tootsie Roll Tootsie Pop owl from that commercial (“How many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie Roll pop? One… two…. [crunch] Thhhrrreeeee!”)

My wee tiny baby boy is a full-fledged preschooler. We just celebrated his third birthday with family and friends, and he is so unique from his sister that some days I am just dumbstruck at the difference. And, to be honest, I am relieved to have one “easy” child who simply radiates love and happiness and fills my emotional reserves well beyond the brim. Even though we determined long ago that the twos were really not all that terrible when compared to the threes, he is still a tremendous joy to be around.

Other than a pretty hellish sleep regression that hit hard in April, he has been doing very well. His balance, coordination, and fine motor skills are far beyond age level. He counts to 14, knows all his colors, and is recognizing letters. He is able to display logic and reasoning skills that floor me. For example, this morning I told him that he would be taking Daddy to work. He looked at me very matter-of-factly and said “No I not. I’m too little to drive the car.” “No, of course not. You will be going with Grandma to take Daddy to work.”

The biggest milestone for him this year is a huge leap in weight gain and height. He gained SIX pounds this year on the special diet, bringing him for the first time onto the bottom of growth chart (he has been in the -5th percentile for height and weight since he was born). He also gained several inches and is now 35+ inches tall, and is in the 10th percentile for both measures.

While I don’t put much stock in comparing him to other children with this chart, I do find it enlightening that compared to his own history he has made big increases. I hope we’re doing the right thing by trying out the allergenic foods again.

Charming Boy, you are my bright and shining sun, just as you were when I was newly pregnant again after SIF and so terrified of losing you. Each day you reassure me that you are perfectly fine in this world, just as you did so many times before you were ever born (and I was petrified anyway). Baby Ray ‘o Sunshine, you are a most wonderous blessing and I am so lucky to share life with you.

Food re-introduction setback

We began re-introducing egg into our kids’ diet this past week. Charming Boy quickly sprouted a skin rash on his face and the backs of his upper arms. This is the reaction he formerly showed for the casein (dairy) allergy.

Very upsetting. He has professed his undying love of eggs, and will be crushed if we have to take him off of them again. This was not something I expected, and I need to figure out what we are going to do now.

One idea is to see if I can find a pediatric acupuncturist nearby, one that will use the little beads under a band-aid instead of needles. A couple of friends have had very good results with this type of treatment.

We are also going to ask the ped about getting a traditional skin allergy test for both kids, though from what I’ve read, the false-positive rate is about 50%, whereas a negative reading is about 95% certain. The serum test from last fall that C.B. had the highest possible IgE reaction to eggs and the protein in all glutenous grains, followed by high reactions to casein. From what I understand, IgG is more of an anaphylactic, life-threatening reaction, while the IgE is more of a skin/lungs/digestive tract reaction; it is therefore not much of a coincidence that C.B. tends to have skin rashes, croup, loose stools, and had reflux (digestive tract issues) his first year of life.

I had hoped that 10 months on a completely egg-free, casein-free diet would have allowed his body to heal enough to tolerate these foods again.

I had really been hoping to have our family back on a normal diet by early summer. My mind is overflowing with expletives!! Time to re-evaluate.

WWYD? If the skin reaction was the only obvious sign to an allergen, would you pull it out of the diet again? Is the obvious culinary pleasure he showed with the food worth the skin rash? I can’t believe I’m seriously on the fence about this.

Diet dreams dissipate

We started the food allergy diagnosis saga back in August 2008. Both kids have been on pretty restrictive diets since the beginning of September (no wheat, gluten, dairy/casein, or eggs; each child also had individual sensitivity to random stuff like almonds, peanuts, coconut, green bell peppers, and more).

We have completed one round of antibiotic treatments for intestinal parasites and one long round (three to four weeks) of antifungals for the colonized yeast infections. The kids each received four sets of supplements per day (two rounds of probiotics, two of vitamins and omega 3s and other customized supplements). It took me at least an hour per week to pre-measure everything into individual little plastic lidded containers (my sanity saver, instead of spending a half-hour each day doling out the same stuff over and over), in addition to the time spend mixing each supplement and following the dosing schedule.

Charming Boy was ill nearly every two weeks throughout the winter. Many of those illnesses required antibiotics to conquer. Most of his dietary supplements focused on improving his immune sytem (zinc, vitamin C, plus at least three other immune supplements).

Miracle Girl had a rough time with diet modification, especially in school with daily snacks brought in by rotating parents who are not always especially concerned with nutrition or appropriateness of snack choices (hello, chocolate-covered pretzels?!). She became a champ at swallowing pills, and learned to just down her smoothie-style supplment drinks with no complaints. I am really very proud of her for that. Most of her supplements focused on improving her volatile and socially-clueless behavior (providing neurotransmitter support).

Charming Boy still exhibits his same milk-allergy pattern, but his immune system is very strong now. He has been able to bounce back from illnesses (like croup and conjunctivitis) within two days with no antibiotics. This is a HUGE and welcome improvement in his health.

We have just finished another round of testing for Miracle Girl to see where she is at in terms of intestinal yeast overgrowth. There is evidence of a lingering stage 1 yeast overgrowth (the most mild form), despite all the diet changes and the long antifungal regimen. We will probably do one final antifungal round, then give most of the rest of it a break. She has tested negative for the celiac disease genes, so we feel comfortable in weaning her off the GFCF diet. We have held Tiny Boy back from reintegrating the foods until both kids could do it together (makes it so much easier that way).

Honestly, I had hoped to see a much greater improvement in my daughter’s behavioral issues. And some days are great. Maybe once a week we’ll have a really great day, and I recognize that as a clear improvement over basically never having a good day. However, I have dreams of having multiple good days strung together, with fewer outbursts and tantrums, more social awareness, and evidence of a general ability to focus and participate appropriately in the activites of a normal day. It does not feel like that is too much to ask for.

So, we have reached the end of the term I had promised my husband where we would re-evaluate the diet modification approach. It’s been nearly 10 months, and I am ready to wean the kids off almost everything. My sincerest admiration goes out to all parents who do this for a lifetime. It is fucking hard to follow 24/7, and you have to tailor your entire family life around it. We were lucky because our kids didn’t have anaphalactic reactions to these foods; I have friends who have to rush their child to the E.R. whenever she is exposed to even the tiniest amounts of gluten, egg, or dairy. For that distinction, I am grateful.

I feel a bit bitter that I followed this regimen so wholeheartedly and do not have clear results to show for it (for Miracle Girl; it obviously worked for Charming Boy). I am extremely grateful to our family who were so supportive of following the diet and dosing the supplements with us whenever we were together; toting bags and coolers of specialized foods and seeking out specialized grocery stores in nearby cities and states for trips where the kids went to stay with them; for scrutinizing menus and withholding some of the classic grandparent/kid destinations because there is nothing they could eat there; for being willing to learn and be supportive of our efforts, all in the interest of helping our kids.

My next step for Miracle Girl is to learn more about psychtropic drugs for people affected by ADHD. It runs in her genetic line, and it’s becoming clear that academically and socially she NEEDS something to help her focus and be able to reign herself in to participate in basic ways day to day. I have avoided this potential conclusion for at least two years. We will begin the ADHD evaluation process with our pediatrician. For every positive outcome I’ve spoken to a family about, I’ve also heard about the potential and serious negative side effects.

In one aspect, I look forward to a potential pharmaceutical trial. As a particularly astute friend put it, “popping one little pill every day has got to be easier than all the hours [and money] you put into the diet and supplements each week!” Probably a lot more affordable, too.

I wish it had not come to this point. but when I am completely honest with myself, I have to consider the “better living through chemistry” route, in case it is a step in that miraculous direction I’ve dreamt of for years.

Car seat churn

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Have you heard that car seats expire? There is a guideline that you must replace child safety car seats every six to eight years (manufacturers can tell you the longevity for your seat). While I intellectually understand the reasons (plastics break down more quickly in the extreme environment of a car, harness straps wear out, safety labels fade, and therefore safety can be compromised– and I would ALWAYS choose the safety of my children over the “chance” it could be fine), my knee-jerk reaction was that it’s just another way to get us to shell out. Again. Probably it’s just that the seats I prefer (Britax) are hella expensive, though based on my experience with other brands, they are totally worth it. I (wrongly) assumed that I’d be using the same seat, barring any accidents (fingers crossed), for each of our kids.

I was surprised when I saw Britax has almost entirely new lineup of convertible seats. I had to start from scratch learning about the new models as I made comparisons.

The new Britax Advocate CS incorporates side airbags into the seat! That is a really intriguing choice for us, since 1999 Sienna has front airbags but no side airbags. The car seat’s airbags are not the igniting airbags you’re probably familiar with, but rather similar to air-filled rubber balloons that absorb side impact, and even help protect the passenger next to the carseat. They have been tested to be very effective. Supposedly available in February 2009, which should have been by… today. Harumph.

One attractive thing about buying a newly-released seat is that it won’t have been sitting around on a retailer’s shelf for 12 months, reducing the useful lifespan (I just saw a Marathon on sale on Amazon for $200, but who knows how old it really is?) And with Charming Boy just hitting a whopping 24 pounds on a 34.5″ frame at 32 months old, let’s face it: he’s gonna need one of these for a LONG time.

I’m curious if you’ve heard of them? We currently have a Roundabout (two years left) and a Marathon (expiring), and I’m trying to decide if the Advocate or the Boulevard is the better choice for us. Do you have any opinions, knowledge, or experience with this?

Crystal ball

I had fun with the Obamiconme tool. This says it all:

Picture of our future

Magic

When my daughter was two, I decided it was a good age to bring to life the magic that toddlers believe in. I began by telling her that she could open her electric minivan door using a magic word. She was welcome to choose any magic word she wanted, and she chose “peanut butter.” Since we can trigger the door to open from any of three surreptitious and always-available buttons, the “magic” was pretty convincing. She loved this tradition and it always helped me to know when the door was moving so I could make sure she was safe.

Fast forward four years. Charming Boy is now old enough to be interested in opening his own car door. Miracle Girl and I were delighted to teach him the magic phrase “Open magic peanut butter door!” He caught on and uses it enthusiastically as often as he can.

Last month, one particularly dark and early morning, my son awoke and began talking and calling to me. This is his habit as he tends to rise before the rest of the household. I was moving pretty slowly getting out of bed, and apparently it was not to his satisfaction. He called out “Mommmmy!  Daaaaaddy!  Daaaama [Grandma]!” He paused, and it was then that I heard him loudly and clearly call out “OPEN MAGIC PEANUT BUTTER DOOR!”

We were so convulsed with laughter that I could hardly breathe. It still makes me giggle when I am reminded that he thinks he could open his bedroom door this way. I love the magic of childhood!

Three sixes

Following the meme that caught my fancy at Phred, Fwed & Schweffel, here is the sixth photo from my sixth picture folder:

Miracle Girl at nearly-two years old

This is my daughter at almost-two years old. She was playing with our then-nanny and had the tiniest little pig tails in her hair. She had the chubbiest cheeks, and barely enough hair for her first (bad) bangs haircut! Her joy and sheer enthusiasm for life radiates even from this young age.

Here she is at six years old:

Charming Girl at 6 years

And just because I was curious, I found a picture of Charming Boy at the same age (the best similarly-posed photo I have from that age range, though I do apologize for the poor focus).

Two year old comparison

I expected to see some similarities between the two at the same age, but other than nose shape and hair color, I don't really see any. What do you think?

Pictures from our trip

After our bumpy start, we had a nice and mellow trip to Wyoming. We played Pit and Yatzee after we got the kids to bed on Thanksgiving with my cousins. We helped anchor the foundation rails for a shed my Mom is building (hammer drills are AWESOME!).

Through sunny days and sudden, sporadic snowstorms, we slept, ate, shopped, and watched movies. The kids played in Grandma's enormous back yard, had fun shoveling and playing in the snow, rode my Uncle's miniature horses, and we all tried our best to simply relax. It's hard to believe we're back home again. It really did not feel like ten days elapsed!

As for my whole expired drivers license issue, DMV has everything they need now. I'm just waiting for my new license to arrive in the mail. Or so I have been told….

I captured a few pictures to share our trip:

I love this portrait of my girl.

Charming Boy looks like a Cabbage Patch doll in this photo.

 Not content to simply ride the horse, Charming Boy reaches over to pet the horse, too.

Yeah, now this is cool!

MG had a blast leading the way.

Tired but still hanging on.

Grandma's newly adopted dog is a real sweetie. Of course, she believes she is human instead of canine, but at least she's very well behaved.

First snowfall

This shed will be bigger than that infamous million dollar garage in Palo Alto (at 0.17% of the cost)!

Mr. Stinker Face

My favorite Jack ‘o Lantern

My Miracle Girl had a dental check-up today. These are not things I talk about in advance, as she will churn for days over whether she will have to get a shot during the appointment, ask me constantly about what will happen at the appointment, and generally drive us all around the bend worrying about myriad 'what ifs'. So, I sprang it on her after school as we drove to the dentist.

The checkup was going well, when the hygenist said "Well, look at that! You have a double tooth!"

Sure enough, MG had an adult lower incisor starting to sprout up directly behind her baby teeth! This news was met with HUGE excitement by MG, as she has literally been asking me for months When will I lose a tooth? Can you please check for wiggly teeth? Her classes the last two years have celebrated losing teeth with their teachers, so she's seen every classmate get to participate while she waited patiently for her teeth to fall out.

The remedy was two extractions, since the baby teeth were not very loose and the secondary tooth needed room to erupt and move forward into place. And let me just say, our pediatric dentist is a total Rock Star! I warned her about MG's severe anxiety and needle aversion, and voila!

MG was actually laughing and very happy during the extraction. (I think the nitrous oxide helped… but still!) Everyone MG has told about it cringes and asked if it hurt, and she just flashes a killer grin and says "NO! She made my teeth sleepy, and I didn't feel it at all!"

Suddenly, we have reached a milestone in a heartbeat. And the Tooth Fairy needs to make an appearance tonight, as well. ;-)

Here she is, now with my favorite Jack 'o Lantern grin of all:

Toothless grin

See my new tooth?

See my new tooth?

Two grins

Miracle Girl with pumpkins

Jack 'o Lanterns

(What I love about the outside pictures is that I took them in total darkness using my favorite Canon 50mm 1.4 lens. It takes in so much light stopped down to 1.4 that it looks like daylight, but I didn't use a flash!)